Are you worried your parents might resent you if you suggest moving to senior living? It’s understandably a tough decision, both for you and for them. Leaving an independent life and a home filled with memories is never easy. That’s why you must approach the conversation with care. This post will explore ways to handle this conversation with your parents.
4 Tips for When Parents Resist Moving to Senior Living
1. Communicate With Empathy
When talking about assisted living, it’s important to listen to your parent’s concerns and show that you understand how they feel. Let them know you’re there for them and that their feelings are valid. You can say things like, “I understand!” or “That’s a great thought!” to show you’re listening. You might say, “I worry about your safety when I’m not around,” instead of “You’re not safe here alone.” This way, you can share your thoughts in a caring way that doesn’t appear accusatory. Sometimes, using a little white lie (therapeutic fibbing) or gentle redirection can be helpful with those who have dementia.
2. Follow Strategies For Smooth Transitions
To make the transition a little easier, including your parents in exploring options is a great idea. Cover the different senior care levels and different options for suites. Let them have a say and provide them with choices! Share some information about the benefits of assisted living, like the cozy amenities, fun social activities, and services.
3. Third-Party Help
Consider getting third-party help. A trusted friend, doctor, spiritual advisor, or counselor could help them see all the positive aspects of seeking care. Starting the conversation early so they don’t feel rushed. Addressing any specific worries they might have can help keep things smooth and manageable.
4. They Have A Choice
It’s important to acknowledge that older adults still think clearly and have the right to make their own choices. When you suggest changes, it can be helpful to appeal to their sense of pride and their ideal selves. Acknowledge that change can be challenging, but express your confidence in their ability to tackle challenges head-on. Also, think about ways to help them save face during these discussions. It’s all about supporting them in a way that feels good for everyone involved. Choosing the right place and time can also help.
Remember that they might not immediately warm up to the idea—change takes time! Being patient and gentle is essential, as they may need a little time to come around. Your consistent efforts to improve their living situation can make a difference in their happiness and independence.
Does your parent need help accepting moving to senior living? Schedule a tour of Enrich Senior Living. We’d be happy to show you and your parents around. You can also reach out to learn more about our community.
